Friday, January 9, 2015

Bhogi Pallu

With Sankranthi round the corner and me in an updating mode, here goes the post

Items Required
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Regi Pallu (berries, preferably cranberries if not in India)
Sanagalu
Coins
Akshintalu

Mix them all together in a bowl before hand and keep it ready.

Seat the kid in a comfortable position and take a handful of stuff from the mixed bowl and rotate as if you are taking dishti and bless the kid.

Invite the people over and let them do the same.

Uyyaala Paatalu

The other day we were looking for the cradle ceremony of a friend's kid and turned up blank as none of us really knew what goes and finally decided to go for "alara chanchalamaina" keertana..

For future reference..



Alara chanchalamaina aatmanandundani yalavaatu chesenee uyyaala..



Jo Achyutaananda Jojo mukundaa..




Ksheerabdi kanyakaku

are just a few... please feel free to add if you get to know more.

In general, the mangala Harathi for any occasion

The Big Scare - Allergies

Like I mentioned, I am so much out of touch with babies, raising babies that the image of going back to the diaper days seems like a nightmare :).

While that is the least of the concerns, when I see my friends battling with kids and their allergies it is heart-wrenching to see the kids suffer and being so helpless as a parent, not being able to do anything to alleviate that itch, pain :(

there is this wonderful video on Allergies in Ted Talks, felt it worthwhile to share


Happy New Year

I know my blog baby is being neglected as my baby is getting older... but I have become lazy overall to update any of my blogs...

I have realized it has been a year since I posted anything in this blog, yet it is used by people and I keep getting tiny thank you messages out of the blue when some parents finds something useful, it has been more than fulfilling :).

Happy Parenting!!! and a Happy New Year.

Monday, October 28, 2013

Kids and TV/Laptop

Yet another excerpt from the previous discussion is on the screen time and Laptop/ipad/computer - Internet time..

Kids as they grow older, they get to know new things from friends and TV ofcourse good/bad what ever . The curiosity which they have since childhood regarding many things remains the same... They want to know what is it...
 1) kids should never be allowed to use laptops or desktops in their rooms. They should be in the living rooms right from the beginning.
 2) there are many softwares in the market to block those sites and also help with the keyword search.
3) if they are on computers please keep communicating with them all the time making sure they are not diverting and if possible help them by being with them like if they are playing any games be with them encourage them or play with them etc.. If they are studying try to involve yourself with them leaving behind all your work.

Courtesy:  Sailaja C.

Teens and Pre-Teens Concerns

This is the excerpt of a discussion pre-teen and teen behavior and I love what this buddy had to say and agree totally with it.

Here it goes..

The bond what we make with our kids during baby time, toddler age , early school age is different......... if we think we had made an awesome bond and it will work for the whole life , we are fooling ourselves.

Pre teen is one more stage where a parent has to establish a new bond with the kid. I personally feel this is a very important stage for a parent and kid relationship.  We cannot ignore that at this time the uniqueness of that individual also starts forming ... kids start their own thinking patterns forming their own opinions...parent have to find a way where their and kids thoughts meet or if not meet then disagreeing peacefully ... at this a GAP may appear in terms of thoughts.........if care is not taken the GAP widens and the kids start drifting away mentally.

At this time a parent has to again make a palce in their lives... Talk talk talk with the kid as much as possible... and pls dont talk as if u r doing a job , a parent shd enjoy tlaking with the kid.. then only they open up..when we give them trust, we get it back too.

Sex is a very important issue...... we cannot simply say '' adi paapam, adi cheeykoodadu ''.. I have always shown sex as a natural thing to my kid.... we talk openely abt sex...he is free to ask me any Questions on the topic... being a parent we hv to give them proper answers which are close to reality and at the same time appropriate for their age.  At 11 there is nothing which they shldn't know honestly.. my son knows everything .... more than sex its the emotional changes which a parent shld not ignore...they experience the first feeling of love... if ur child comes to u and tlak abt his/ her interest then as a parent, you can pat ur back and think that u hv passed a small test in wining a small amount of trust.

Courtesy:  Sunita M.