Which foods should I offer my toddler?
Each day, offer a variety of foods from the four nutritious food groups:
1. Starchy Foods (carbohydrates)
Offer these at every meal and some snack times. They include breakfast cereals, pasta, rice, suji or semolina preparations, potatoes, sweet potatoes, colocasia (arvi), yam, plantain and any foods made from flour such as chapattis, parathas, dosas.
2. Fruits and Vegetables
Toddlers may take some time to learn to eat a wide variety of these, particularly vegetables. Keep offering them at each meal so that your toddler learns that they are always part of a normal meal. Include greens like spinach in dry curries, dals, soups and stuffed into chapattis. Apart from vegetables like cauliflower, carrots, pumpkin, beans and peas, introduce local vegetables like bottlegourd , ash gourd , ridgegourd , chayote squash,snake gourd,okra,eggplant and other beans like broad beans and cluster beans, Fruits are often more popular -- cut them into finger foods to make them easier to eat.
3. High Iron And High Protein Foods
Offer these at one or two meals each day. They include meat, fish, eggs, nuts and pulses. Pulses like kidney beans(rajma),chickpeaskabuli chana),hummus ,dals,soya bean products like tofu and nuts and seeds like almonds, walnuts, sesame seeds.
Vegetarians who are not eating meat should have some pulses, eggs, nuts or beans at two or three meals each day inorder to get enough iron. Introduce different kinds of like toor dal and moong dal, masoor dal, urad dal, Bengal gram ,kala chana. Parathas can also be made with stuffed dal, which has been cooked dry or use left over dal to knead flour and make delicious parathas.
4. Milk, Cheese,Paneer And Yogurt
Dairy products provide plenty of calcium for growing bones but they are extremely low in iron. Toddlers need less milk than they did during their first year of life -- Offer
about 120ml of milk in a cup as a drink rather than a full bottle and aim for about 350ml/12oz a day. Large amounts of milk will reduce your toddler's appetite for other foods, especially those higher in iron.
All toddlers should drink whole (full fat) milk until they are two years old. After two you can change to 2% or skimmed milk(but do so only after consulting a pediatrician).You can continue using formula if ur toddler is a picky or poor eater as the formula is fortified with iron.Check with your pediatrician,they may recommend iron supplements if necessary.
What should my toddler drink?
Offer a drink with each meal and snack.It can be milk,water or diluted fresh juice10 parts water to 1 part juice).Toddlers need more fluids in very hot weather or if they are very active as they can become dehydrated quite quickly.
Try to refrain from giving colas and other fizzy drinks as they cause tooth decay.Donot five milk or water just before mealtimes as they may fill up your
toddler with no appetite left for food.
Tuesday, October 6, 2009
Common concerns when joining a kid in day care
It is very much important to choose a good day care when leaving our kid with them for a very long time. While choosing a day care the important things you should consider are:
1. Choose a day care which is near to your work place (it will be easier for you to drop/pick the kid). If u dont find any, near to ur work place then search for the day cares near to your home
2. Talk to friends if they had any reviews
3. Visit the centers that u have short listed. And This is the criteria u have to look for:
a. look for their daily schedule, overall neatness, teachers friendliness, cost of the program, lunch and snack menu
b. If yours is a hot area, make sure that outside play area is covered
c. Nap time must be definitely followed so that kids doesn't get tired by evening
d. If u r a vegetarian, check if they have vegetarian menu otherwise make sure they should allow you to send home made food
e. If there are any friends kids in that center, its a major PLUS
4. If possible try to send him/her for few hours (2 to 3 hrs) for the first few days and then join in regular hours
5. If u both r working try to adjust work hours so that the kid would be 6-7hrs in the day care so that they dont get too tired
(composed from the reply of our TIA member Lakshmi Kalyani for poornima's query)
Response 1
When i did some research on this Day Care issue, I found an interesting article dealing with all the day care issues. I thought it would be helpful to everyone who wanted to join their kid in day care and sharing it here:
With the number of children in day care, it should be very reassuring to parents that recent studies have shown that if in a good day care environment, children can thrive and continue to grow and develop appropriately. It is therefore very important to choose a day care that provides your child with a healthy and safe environment. The following advice will help you to find the right children's day care.
Types of Day Care
There are a variety of options available if you require someone to help care for your children. You may choose in-home care, in which the care giver comes to your home. This offers the benefit of your child having individual attention and remaining in the comfort of your home, but keep in mind that in-home caregivers are unlicensed, are unsupervised for much of the day and may be expensive. Check references very carefully when choosing someone to care for your child in your home.
Another type of child care has a caregiver watching your child in their home. Family child care providers should be licensed, usually only care for a small number of children and are usually cheaper than formal day care centers. The quality of family child care providers varies greatly, so be sure to check references carefully and talk with the parents of other children that are in this person's care and who have recently left.
Day care centers are a popular alternative to home care. These are formal care centers that also must be licensed and may be for-profit or nonprofit and associated with a church or other organization. The disadvantage of day care centers is that they usually have higher group sizes and higher child to care giver ratios, so your child will be exposed to more illnesses and will not receive individualized attention.
Choosing a Day Care
Once you have decided which type of day care environment to place your child in, you will have to decide which day care to place him in. Remember that the different types of day care all have their own advantages and disadvantages and you should choose the one that you feel the most comfortable with. Some things you should look for include:
* Choose a day care that is licensed.
* Check the references of day care providers. For in home care providers, check their references from the past five years and talk with previous employers. If choosing a day care center or family child care provider, talk with other parents who have previously been or are currently under their care.
* What are the day care centers hiring qualifications for day care providers? Do they require any child development experience?
* What is the turnover rate of caregivers? Frequent turnover is not good for your child and may indicate that there is a problem with the day care center.
* Only choose a day care that allows you to make unscheduled visits.
* Make sure that group sizes (how many children are in your child's room) and child to staff ratios (how many children does each caregiver look after) aren't too large. Your child should also be grouped with children of similar ages. Optimal sizes depend on your child's age and include:
<2yrs:>
* The day care should have policies in place on infection control, exclusion criteria for sick children, and strict immunization requirements for children and day care providers. Is a policy in place to notify parents if your child is exposed to someone with a contagious illness?
* Visit the day care and make sure that it is childproof (look for smoke detectors and fire extinguishers, covers on electrical outlets, locks on cabinets, temperature of hot water, etc.), clean, has separate areas for changing diapers and preparing food, and that the children are always closely supervised. Do day care providers encourage frequent hand washing and have a strict environmental sanitation program (routine cleaning of toys and disinfecting of kitchen and bathroom surfaces)?
* Is your child provided with age appropriate toys?
* Ask about the day care center's goals (will they help your child to grow and develop at their own pace) and daily schedule for a typical day. Is this schedule consistent each day (better) or are children not given a regular routine (more difficult for most children)?
* Does the day care have a plan in place for emergencies and do all providers know basic first aid?
* How do they deal with common behavior problems, such as hitting or biting?
* Do they follow the Back To Sleep recommendations of the American Academy of Pediatrics, or do they allow infants to sleep on their stomachs?
* Is a strict no smoking policy in place?
* Also make sure that the day care providers position on behavior management and discipline agree with your own.
* Are day care providers able to apply care if your child has any special needs (giving medication, etc)?
* Does the day care provide feedback each day about your child's behavior, diet and sleep patterns?
* Once you choose a day care, continue to closely monitor how your child is adapting to being in another persons care.
Making the Transition to Day Care
Making the transition from caring for your child full time to moving him into a day care can be very difficult, both for you and your child. It is also difficult to know the optimal age at which to make the transition. Older children have stronger immune systems and are better able to handle being exposed to infections, but have more problems with separation anxiety. Younger children make the transition easier, but are more likely to catch upper respiratory infections and other illnesses.
Whenever you choose to start day care, you should try and make the transition gradually. It is especially important that younger children be slowly introduced to a new caregiver. If possible, visit the day care with your child for an hour or two at a time before you have to leave him alone there for the day.
Sick Child Care
You should prepare in advance for alternative care providers if your child is ill or if your child care provider becomes ill. A backup plan to have your child stay with a friend or family member, or in a specialized day care that cares for children with mild illnesses, will be important if you can not miss work.
(courtesy: keepkidshealthy.com)
1. Choose a day care which is near to your work place (it will be easier for you to drop/pick the kid). If u dont find any, near to ur work place then search for the day cares near to your home
2. Talk to friends if they had any reviews
3. Visit the centers that u have short listed. And This is the criteria u have to look for:
a. look for their daily schedule, overall neatness, teachers friendliness, cost of the program, lunch and snack menu
b. If yours is a hot area, make sure that outside play area is covered
c. Nap time must be definitely followed so that kids doesn't get tired by evening
d. If u r a vegetarian, check if they have vegetarian menu otherwise make sure they should allow you to send home made food
e. If there are any friends kids in that center, its a major PLUS
4. If possible try to send him/her for few hours (2 to 3 hrs) for the first few days and then join in regular hours
5. If u both r working try to adjust work hours so that the kid would be 6-7hrs in the day care so that they dont get too tired
(composed from the reply of our TIA member Lakshmi Kalyani for poornima's query)
Response 1
When i did some research on this Day Care issue, I found an interesting article dealing with all the day care issues. I thought it would be helpful to everyone who wanted to join their kid in day care and sharing it here:
With the number of children in day care, it should be very reassuring to parents that recent studies have shown that if in a good day care environment, children can thrive and continue to grow and develop appropriately. It is therefore very important to choose a day care that provides your child with a healthy and safe environment. The following advice will help you to find the right children's day care.
Types of Day Care
There are a variety of options available if you require someone to help care for your children. You may choose in-home care, in which the care giver comes to your home. This offers the benefit of your child having individual attention and remaining in the comfort of your home, but keep in mind that in-home caregivers are unlicensed, are unsupervised for much of the day and may be expensive. Check references very carefully when choosing someone to care for your child in your home.
Another type of child care has a caregiver watching your child in their home. Family child care providers should be licensed, usually only care for a small number of children and are usually cheaper than formal day care centers. The quality of family child care providers varies greatly, so be sure to check references carefully and talk with the parents of other children that are in this person's care and who have recently left.
Day care centers are a popular alternative to home care. These are formal care centers that also must be licensed and may be for-profit or nonprofit and associated with a church or other organization. The disadvantage of day care centers is that they usually have higher group sizes and higher child to care giver ratios, so your child will be exposed to more illnesses and will not receive individualized attention.
Choosing a Day Care
Once you have decided which type of day care environment to place your child in, you will have to decide which day care to place him in. Remember that the different types of day care all have their own advantages and disadvantages and you should choose the one that you feel the most comfortable with. Some things you should look for include:
* Choose a day care that is licensed.
* Check the references of day care providers. For in home care providers, check their references from the past five years and talk with previous employers. If choosing a day care center or family child care provider, talk with other parents who have previously been or are currently under their care.
* What are the day care centers hiring qualifications for day care providers? Do they require any child development experience?
* What is the turnover rate of caregivers? Frequent turnover is not good for your child and may indicate that there is a problem with the day care center.
* Only choose a day care that allows you to make unscheduled visits.
* Make sure that group sizes (how many children are in your child's room) and child to staff ratios (how many children does each caregiver look after) aren't too large. Your child should also be grouped with children of similar ages. Optimal sizes depend on your child's age and include:
<2yrs:>
* The day care should have policies in place on infection control, exclusion criteria for sick children, and strict immunization requirements for children and day care providers. Is a policy in place to notify parents if your child is exposed to someone with a contagious illness?
* Visit the day care and make sure that it is childproof (look for smoke detectors and fire extinguishers, covers on electrical outlets, locks on cabinets, temperature of hot water, etc.), clean, has separate areas for changing diapers and preparing food, and that the children are always closely supervised. Do day care providers encourage frequent hand washing and have a strict environmental sanitation program (routine cleaning of toys and disinfecting of kitchen and bathroom surfaces)?
* Is your child provided with age appropriate toys?
* Ask about the day care center's goals (will they help your child to grow and develop at their own pace) and daily schedule for a typical day. Is this schedule consistent each day (better) or are children not given a regular routine (more difficult for most children)?
* Does the day care have a plan in place for emergencies and do all providers know basic first aid?
* How do they deal with common behavior problems, such as hitting or biting?
* Do they follow the Back To Sleep recommendations of the American Academy of Pediatrics, or do they allow infants to sleep on their stomachs?
* Is a strict no smoking policy in place?
* Also make sure that the day care providers position on behavior management and discipline agree with your own.
* Are day care providers able to apply care if your child has any special needs (giving medication, etc)?
* Does the day care provide feedback each day about your child's behavior, diet and sleep patterns?
* Once you choose a day care, continue to closely monitor how your child is adapting to being in another persons care.
Making the Transition to Day Care
Making the transition from caring for your child full time to moving him into a day care can be very difficult, both for you and your child. It is also difficult to know the optimal age at which to make the transition. Older children have stronger immune systems and are better able to handle being exposed to infections, but have more problems with separation anxiety. Younger children make the transition easier, but are more likely to catch upper respiratory infections and other illnesses.
Whenever you choose to start day care, you should try and make the transition gradually. It is especially important that younger children be slowly introduced to a new caregiver. If possible, visit the day care with your child for an hour or two at a time before you have to leave him alone there for the day.
Sick Child Care
You should prepare in advance for alternative care providers if your child is ill or if your child care provider becomes ill. A backup plan to have your child stay with a friend or family member, or in a specialized day care that cares for children with mild illnesses, will be important if you can not miss work.
(courtesy: keepkidshealthy.com)
Monday, October 5, 2009
Baby Tickets/Travel Tips
Baby tickets funda ento cheppandi plz. I want to buy my tickets today or tomorrow.
6 month old ki ticket teesukovala and luggage enta teesukovachu
Response 1
You have to specify that you are travelling with an infant. Generally, the ticket price would be 10-25% of the adult ticket. And they would allow upto 23lb check in luggage, a diaper bag + stroller to carry on. Please mention the age of your kid and request for bassinet. They would provide it depending on the first come first serve basis and only upto certain weight/age limit.
If you are travelling alone with the kid, make sure to carry easy hand luggage, like a back pack. Also, the most important to pack is the hand luggage first. Cross check atleast 10 times, to verify if everything was with u in hand luggage. Also, carry some quick bites during the plane for u, as u guys have to be energetic enough!!
Regarding the packed luggage, it depends on each of you. I preferred the diapers we get here than the ones in india. Also, my son didn't eat rice and dal during that time, so had to rely on gerbers a lot.... I missed the humidifier a lot....wipes, bibs etc have many alternatives over there...still, its ur preference....
also, be prepared to hear lots of unwanted advice/comments from family, relatives and friends. Be strong, you know what's good for your child.
Have a nice trip :) Let it be a memorable for both of u:)
6 month old ki ticket teesukovala and luggage enta teesukovachu
Response 1
You have to specify that you are travelling with an infant. Generally, the ticket price would be 10-25% of the adult ticket. And they would allow upto 23lb check in luggage, a diaper bag + stroller to carry on. Please mention the age of your kid and request for bassinet. They would provide it depending on the first come first serve basis and only upto certain weight/age limit.
If you are travelling alone with the kid, make sure to carry easy hand luggage, like a back pack. Also, the most important to pack is the hand luggage first. Cross check atleast 10 times, to verify if everything was with u in hand luggage. Also, carry some quick bites during the plane for u, as u guys have to be energetic enough!!
Regarding the packed luggage, it depends on each of you. I preferred the diapers we get here than the ones in india. Also, my son didn't eat rice and dal during that time, so had to rely on gerbers a lot.... I missed the humidifier a lot....wipes, bibs etc have many alternatives over there...still, its ur preference....
also, be prepared to hear lots of unwanted advice/comments from family, relatives and friends. Be strong, you know what's good for your child.
Have a nice trip :) Let it be a memorable for both of u:)
India Packing List
Formula
Diapers (Indialo day time cloth diapers use chedham anukuntuna...what say?)
clothes - bodysuits, rompers
Food- Cereal, Stage 2 food (shd i take stage 3 too??? )
Bottles
Dropins Bottles with dropins
Spare nipples
Wash cloths
Bibs
Disposable bibs
Disposable changing pads
Wipes
Wet ones
Diaper rash
Mylicon
Tylenol
Infant's Motrin
Nasal Spray
Aspirator
Thermometer
Few toys/rattles
Bedtime lullaby CD
Blankets
Kudirithey Nursery water (for travel outside Chennai)
Courtesy: Visa.
Diapers (Indialo day time cloth diapers use chedham anukuntuna...what say?)
clothes - bodysuits, rompers
Food- Cereal, Stage 2 food (shd i take stage 3 too??? )
Bottles
Dropins Bottles with dropins
Spare nipples
Wash cloths
Bibs
Disposable bibs
Disposable changing pads
Wipes
Wet ones
Diaper rash
Mylicon
Tylenol
Infant's Motrin
Nasal Spray
Aspirator
Thermometer
Few toys/rattles
Bedtime lullaby CD
Blankets
Kudirithey Nursery water (for travel outside Chennai)
Courtesy: Visa.
Sunday, October 4, 2009
ISP - Orange Juice Of Your Child
MAKING ORANGE JUICE OF THE CHILD
before i go into the topic.....i have a small homework for the parents...(wife n husband)
both take a white paper...n complete the statement...as far as ur spouse goes
I feel very happy n loved when.........
if its u who is writing
I feel very happy n loved when he........
if its ur husband
I feel very happy n loved when she.........
be truthful n straighforward
dont hold any simple things..for eg whn he.caress my hair. he cooks, wh he hugs, he takes to a movie,whn he cleans the house, whn he gifts, go to sea beach/ surfing romantic things,holding hands without spking much..ila the list goes on..write how many u/he can
there are some children who are open..highly energetic...n some closed..low energetic n some with highself esteem n some with low esteem. whn the children have high self esteem their energy levels are more..thy become automatically lovable..n whn they have low self esteem they become irritated at home as well as outside
wht is happening in their case?
there are five areas/ different ways to express love....if u understand which is ur primary love language u/ spouse have..thn it will be easy to give it to ur children
1) quality time(physically n mentally present)..eg iam talking to u..u are listening totally involved..n suddenly ur phone rings..u tend to hear on phone as well asa me...so are u giving quality time? are we spending the same way with ur child/ spouse? are we spending 100% with child or spouse?
2) words of appreciation eg.i love the way u cook, u are looking ver nice, whn i back home n see u ..i feel happy, appreciate whn u really had hard day n ur husband appreciate u( u really maintained the party well)
3)Recieving/giving gifts..eg. surprise gifts..even asmall rose.. a card... apen
4)Acts of service(errands)..eg. if he helps in cooking, cleaning the house, washing the car,
5) physical touch....like u like physically to be close/near..it can be from holding hands..lying on the lap/hug.......to sex
these are the 5 areas of love expression..... now wht ever u had written in the paper...exchange the papers.....now mark against it which love expression was it
for eg.
whn he caress me---Physical touch(P)
whn he cooks food on weekend---acts of service(A)
whn he gives me a surprise on normal days(R)
whn he n i go for along walk--- quality time(Q)
whn he says u are beautiful...words of appreciation(W)
so In simple n Short Mark Q/W/R/A/P
DONT SHOW WHT U ARE WRITTING TILL U BOTH FINISH
once u mark u will come to know wht love lang he has/she has..n thn count which one is more..like Q is more or W is more , A is more.....
this helps u to know wht is is his/ur Primary lang.....suppose out of 50 points u wrote..25 is W, 10 is A, 5 is P..so on..thn it means the primary love lang is Quality time
inside every child there is an emotional parent to be filled..tht emotional part has to filled with love.... but unfortunately wht happens is u are speaking in english n iam speaking in chinese..do u understand..NOOOOOOOOOOO.... so these love languages..help u to find out wht is ur n ur husband primary lang
this may change over a period of time...suppose whn u are maried Physical touch would be the primary love lang..th n later it would have become "W"..so if u do this execrcise u will find out wht lang u or he is in....once u understand..apply it conciously as u know wht he /she is expecting...this brings more happiness n understanding between both of u...once u know start applying this for one week n u will find lots of change
like suppose his primary lang is "A' n urs is "Q"..u have a clash..u want quality time n his is acts of service...so insted u spending quality time try giving him acts of service..n he giving u Quality time.....so dicover amongst ur selves...n start expressing u will change ur married life into much more beautiful way thn wht it is now
Wht is the best gift u can give to ur child?(write down in 3 mins)
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eg...silence, independence, love, confidence, quality time, happiness, happy parents, knowledge,unconditional love, child like, seva,enthusiasm, communication, selfesteem,education, values.....the list goes on isnt it?
if u want to conclude one thing which one would u give.....?
u can give UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.......but wht does it mean?
no expectations, no setting standards, be afriend, being child like.......
whn we say unconditional love between mother n father..wht does it mean?(child is seeing wht his/her mother n father is)
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
ideal like partner,QWARP
it takes a while for u to develop tht unconditional love with each other..so wht are u going to do till thn ......attempt to communicate, TALK TALK TALK..dont expect other to talk......
elders do all this....but children cannot express in words....
so whn we say express the love to child how do u express....how?
a small HUg..child is happy..but child is not a very buubly child...so how do we have a bubbly child?
this is where our topic of making orange juice of ur child...u would be doing this..some wouldnt..but once u know start playing this game with ur child everyday in the night
papa n mommy hugging with child in between....child in centre n parents on both side..n before sleeping tell him/hger tht we are making orange juice of u/or let us make orange juice of daddy/ orange jiuce of mummy.......so sueeze the person in centre.....u will have alot of laughter, happiness,fun....the child feels happy..funfilled, family security. love of parents
this u can call as sandwich game..tickling...
try to play this game every day...( the child must see mummy n daddy hugging..if not they will start withdrawing)
u will find energy switching in ur child.
u will see the child very happy n lively....make sure u are also child like whn u play.....
like if ur child is not brushing in the night..u can always use this game..ok iam brushing now n we will make sandwich of u...this will alert thm n thy look forward for this game..u can play this in the mornings..the child will feel a happy family...now u can spend some quality time playing instead of watching telvision..or doing some other thgings...like u toppling on each other...hugging..laughing....u need not talk anythingbeyond except play.......doing this put ur child to sleep for 10 mins..the child gets up next day with full energy.....U can see the result on SPOT
Courtesy: Rekha Satish
before i go into the topic.....i have a small homework for the parents...(wife n husband)
both take a white paper...n complete the statement...as far as ur spouse goes
I feel very happy n loved when.........
if its u who is writing
I feel very happy n loved when he........
if its ur husband
I feel very happy n loved when she.........
be truthful n straighforward
dont hold any simple things..for eg whn he.caress my hair. he cooks, wh he hugs, he takes to a movie,whn he cleans the house, whn he gifts, go to sea beach/ surfing romantic things,holding hands without spking much..ila the list goes on..write how many u/he can
there are some children who are open..highly energetic...n some closed..low energetic n some with highself esteem n some with low esteem. whn the children have high self esteem their energy levels are more..thy become automatically lovable..n whn they have low self esteem they become irritated at home as well as outside
wht is happening in their case?
there are five areas/ different ways to express love....if u understand which is ur primary love language u/ spouse have..thn it will be easy to give it to ur children
1) quality time(physically n mentally present)..eg iam talking to u..u are listening totally involved..n suddenly ur phone rings..u tend to hear on phone as well asa me...so are u giving quality time? are we spending the same way with ur child/ spouse? are we spending 100% with child or spouse?
2) words of appreciation eg.i love the way u cook, u are looking ver nice, whn i back home n see u ..i feel happy, appreciate whn u really had hard day n ur husband appreciate u( u really maintained the party well)
3)Recieving/giving gifts..eg. surprise gifts..even asmall rose.. a card... apen
4)Acts of service(errands)..eg. if he helps in cooking, cleaning the house, washing the car,
5) physical touch....like u like physically to be close/near..it can be from holding hands..lying on the lap/hug.......to sex
these are the 5 areas of love expression..... now wht ever u had written in the paper...exchange the papers.....now mark against it which love expression was it
for eg.
whn he caress me---Physical touch(P)
whn he cooks food on weekend---acts of service(A)
whn he gives me a surprise on normal days(R)
whn he n i go for along walk--- quality time(Q)
whn he says u are beautiful...words of appreciation(W)
so In simple n Short Mark Q/W/R/A/P
DONT SHOW WHT U ARE WRITTING TILL U BOTH FINISH
once u mark u will come to know wht love lang he has/she has..n thn count which one is more..like Q is more or W is more , A is more.....
this helps u to know wht is is his/ur Primary lang.....suppose out of 50 points u wrote..25 is W, 10 is A, 5 is P..so on..thn it means the primary love lang is Quality time
inside every child there is an emotional parent to be filled..tht emotional part has to filled with love.... but unfortunately wht happens is u are speaking in english n iam speaking in chinese..do u understand..NOOOOOOOOOOO.... so these love languages..help u to find out wht is ur n ur husband primary lang
this may change over a period of time...suppose whn u are maried Physical touch would be the primary love lang..th n later it would have become "W"..so if u do this execrcise u will find out wht lang u or he is in....once u understand..apply it conciously as u know wht he /she is expecting...this brings more happiness n understanding between both of u...once u know start applying this for one week n u will find lots of change
like suppose his primary lang is "A' n urs is "Q"..u have a clash..u want quality time n his is acts of service...so insted u spending quality time try giving him acts of service..n he giving u Quality time.....so dicover amongst ur selves...n start expressing u will change ur married life into much more beautiful way thn wht it is now
Wht is the best gift u can give to ur child?(write down in 3 mins)
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
eg...silence, independence, love, confidence, quality time, happiness, happy parents, knowledge,unconditional love, child like, seva,enthusiasm, communication, selfesteem,education, values.....the list goes on isnt it?
if u want to conclude one thing which one would u give.....?
u can give UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.......but wht does it mean?
no expectations, no setting standards, be afriend, being child like.......
whn we say unconditional love between mother n father..wht does it mean?(child is seeing wht his/her mother n father is)
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
ideal like partner,QWARP
it takes a while for u to develop tht unconditional love with each other..so wht are u going to do till thn ......attempt to communicate, TALK TALK TALK..dont expect other to talk......
elders do all this....but children cannot express in words....
so whn we say express the love to child how do u express....how?
a small HUg..child is happy..but child is not a very buubly child...so how do we have a bubbly child?
this is where our topic of making orange juice of ur child...u would be doing this..some wouldnt..but once u know start playing this game with ur child everyday in the night
papa n mommy hugging with child in between....child in centre n parents on both side..n before sleeping tell him/hger tht we are making orange juice of u/or let us make orange juice of daddy/ orange jiuce of mummy.......so sueeze the person in centre.....u will have alot of laughter, happiness,fun....the child feels happy..funfilled, family security. love of parents
this u can call as sandwich game..tickling...
try to play this game every day...( the child must see mummy n daddy hugging..if not they will start withdrawing)
u will find energy switching in ur child.
u will see the child very happy n lively....make sure u are also child like whn u play.....
like if ur child is not brushing in the night..u can always use this game..ok iam brushing now n we will make sandwich of u...this will alert thm n thy look forward for this game..u can play this in the mornings..the child will feel a happy family...now u can spend some quality time playing instead of watching telvision..or doing some other thgings...like u toppling on each other...hugging..laughing....u need not talk anythingbeyond except play.......doing this put ur child to sleep for 10 mins..the child gets up next day with full energy.....U can see the result on SPOT
Courtesy: Rekha Satish
ISP - Self Esteem
SELF ESTEEM OF UR CHILD
we are talking about enhancing selfesteem of the child..before tht
wht do u understand by self esteem?
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self respect.....confidence...accepting urself.......taking pride in wht ever u do.......loving ur own self......being secure within oneself.......complete participation...
to say a fact..90% indians suffer from low selfesteem..whn u have such low selfesteem..wht are u transfering to ur child?.......
children grow n carry on same thing..right..so are thy building selfesteem?
how is it formed..or whn does it start building?
it is formed right from the birth....its the foundation...
just now analyse whts the reason for u having low selfesteem?
if u analyse u will find tht either people around u..give comments..u get affected/not affected or other factors..school/home/society/other environment..u have grown n started.. telling internal dialogues.
the foundation of developing self esteem is a combination of
1) who u are..
2) how u feel abt urself..
3) wht do u think abt ur future potential
how do we express ourselves..through the navarasas isn't...so how were the navarasas come out in ur child..how did u attend..this starts building the selfesteem...
As parents u are the most important people in ur babys world..u provide him with his first defination of himself..u tell him through ur every word, gesture n actions just how important he is n how is he percieved in the outside world
wht is the vision u had for urself..write only in five lines..wht ever u had?( in 4 mins
now write wht is the vision u have for ur child?( 5 mins..in five lines)
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for eg..i have written for my baby..tht he shuld be enthusiastic,strong, honest, lovable,wise,peaceful,visionary, n happy( this is wht i spoke in the first posts abut VISION)
this vison shuld be very clear for u to develop self esteem in ur child
now how do we build or break the self esteem in our child? list thm out separately in two different columns
how do we break?
saying NO....saying Don't.......comparing with others.....do's n dont's..not being honest..giving negative criticism..labelling the child(u are lazy)...telling lies......u cant do this, its difficult.....telling him at situations..u are old/young( setting standards)....
contradictions(eg.eat slow..n sometimes eat fast)..shouting.....hiding things( like habits..like smoking..drinking etc)..bribing(selfishness comes out....they dont take risk which is inborn talent...thy will do whn thy know thy they will achieve the bribe)...fear( if u dont do this u instill fear..tht if u wont eat lion will come....etc)
wht do u do whn u are irritated because of child?
u tell thm MUmmy is irritated..but dont blame thm..u express ur feelings but dont blame thm..so child gets signalled tht if i do this mom gets irritated..n thn he will not be made scape goat...
how do we build?
encouraging/inspiring....letting thm experience....allowing thm to perform( again we bring all the break points here..we compare.tell thm no..do like this etc.....see he did so well)...giving thm total trust......let thm fall, thy will learn
as said in earlier posts the child shuld be developed physically, emotionally, spiriytually, mentaly n socially...so how do we develop their self seteem in all these
Physical----sports, dance, exercise(let thm do as thy like..no dos n donts..let thm fail..thy will feel responsible, dont compare..boost their energies)
mentally-----chess, reading( read to thnm casually..thy will catch up), maths( every where u can develop..market...park..pick up pebbles..substraction ..additions etc easily taught), encyclopedia, computer, skills
socially---- natural discipline
emotionally--dram, music, art( whn ever ur child is disturbed ask him to draw it up..it lightens his heart/ make a white board n write grt news/something grt/spl today on it..whn ur child comes home ask him to write wht was something spl he did today..in this way positive qualites are developed..n thn whn day is over transfer it to some book n in aweek read all of thm ..it will feel him gud..even at home if he did gud thing write it..ask him to write himself..his conciousness will be aroused)
spiritually---teach thm to be responsible( wht does responsible mean....?stop the buck..stop blaming people for ur life or for ur child life including the school..once u stop balming ur child starts improving..u will allievate ur child from here whn u stop blaming)
Courtesy: Rekha Satish
we are talking about enhancing selfesteem of the child..before tht
wht do u understand by self esteem?
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self respect.....confidence...accepting urself.......taking pride in wht ever u do.......loving ur own self......being secure within oneself.......complete participation...
to say a fact..90% indians suffer from low selfesteem..whn u have such low selfesteem..wht are u transfering to ur child?.......
children grow n carry on same thing..right..so are thy building selfesteem?
how is it formed..or whn does it start building?
it is formed right from the birth....its the foundation...
just now analyse whts the reason for u having low selfesteem?
if u analyse u will find tht either people around u..give comments..u get affected/not affected or other factors..school/home/society/other environment..u have grown n started.. telling internal dialogues.
the foundation of developing self esteem is a combination of
1) who u are..
2) how u feel abt urself..
3) wht do u think abt ur future potential
how do we express ourselves..through the navarasas isn't...so how were the navarasas come out in ur child..how did u attend..this starts building the selfesteem...
As parents u are the most important people in ur babys world..u provide him with his first defination of himself..u tell him through ur every word, gesture n actions just how important he is n how is he percieved in the outside world
wht is the vision u had for urself..write only in five lines..wht ever u had?( in 4 mins
now write wht is the vision u have for ur child?( 5 mins..in five lines)
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for eg..i have written for my baby..tht he shuld be enthusiastic,strong, honest, lovable,wise,peaceful,visionary, n happy( this is wht i spoke in the first posts abut VISION)
this vison shuld be very clear for u to develop self esteem in ur child
now how do we build or break the self esteem in our child? list thm out separately in two different columns
how do we break?
saying NO....saying Don't.......comparing with others.....do's n dont's..not being honest..giving negative criticism..labelling the child(u are lazy)...telling lies......u cant do this, its difficult.....telling him at situations..u are old/young( setting standards)....
contradictions(eg.eat slow..n sometimes eat fast)..shouting.....hiding things( like habits..like smoking..drinking etc)..bribing(selfishness comes out....they dont take risk which is inborn talent...thy will do whn thy know thy they will achieve the bribe)...fear( if u dont do this u instill fear..tht if u wont eat lion will come....etc)
wht do u do whn u are irritated because of child?
u tell thm MUmmy is irritated..but dont blame thm..u express ur feelings but dont blame thm..so child gets signalled tht if i do this mom gets irritated..n thn he will not be made scape goat...
how do we build?
encouraging/inspiring....letting thm experience....allowing thm to perform( again we bring all the break points here..we compare.tell thm no..do like this etc.....see he did so well)...giving thm total trust......let thm fall, thy will learn
as said in earlier posts the child shuld be developed physically, emotionally, spiriytually, mentaly n socially...so how do we develop their self seteem in all these
Physical----sports, dance, exercise(let thm do as thy like..no dos n donts..let thm fail..thy will feel responsible, dont compare..boost their energies)
mentally-----chess, reading( read to thnm casually..thy will catch up), maths( every where u can develop..market...park..pick up pebbles..substraction ..additions etc easily taught), encyclopedia, computer, skills
socially---- natural discipline
emotionally--dram, music, art( whn ever ur child is disturbed ask him to draw it up..it lightens his heart/ make a white board n write grt news/something grt/spl today on it..whn ur child comes home ask him to write wht was something spl he did today..in this way positive qualites are developed..n thn whn day is over transfer it to some book n in aweek read all of thm ..it will feel him gud..even at home if he did gud thing write it..ask him to write himself..his conciousness will be aroused)
spiritually---teach thm to be responsible( wht does responsible mean....?stop the buck..stop blaming people for ur life or for ur child life including the school..once u stop balming ur child starts improving..u will allievate ur child from here whn u stop blaming)
Courtesy: Rekha Satish
ISP - Recommended Music
Music recommended are as follows
category 1
-- sacred chants of shiva
-- chants of india
Category 2(devotional vocal)
--asha prahaar(music for the eight prahars)
--maa( jagjit singh) just wonderful idi naaku aithe baaga navvhesindi
-- meera soor kabeera(latha hridayanath mangeshkar)
-- chala vaahi des( meera bhajans, lata n hridayanath mangeshkar)
Category 3
-- vata(relaxation music for morning , evening- deepak chopra)
-- L.subramaniam(conversations -A fusion album with Stepehem grapheti)
-- Ganapati satchinanda( music for healing n meditation)
-- nothing but wind( illayaraja n Pt. Hari pradsad chaurasia)
Category 4(wester classical)
--mozart(greatest hits)
-- beethoven (greatest hits)
-- tchaikovsky(ballet music)
Category 5 (indian classical vocal)
-- Ustad bade ghulam ali khan
-- pt. bhimsen joshi
-- sanjeev abhayankar
--pt. jasraj
--pt. mani prasdaji
Category 6(indian classical instrumental)
-- morning dew(pt. hari prasad chaurasia- flute)
-- live at the carnegie hall( pt ravi shankar -sitar)
--ustad sultan khan(sarangi)
--classical encounters (pt. shiv kumar sharma-santoor)
play the music as if u are in watching a movie
best time for classical is morning n night n western in the evening n afternoon
Courtesy: Rekha Satish
category 1
-- sacred chants of shiva
-- chants of india
Category 2(devotional vocal)
--asha prahaar(music for the eight prahars)
--maa( jagjit singh) just wonderful idi naaku aithe baaga navvhesindi
-- meera soor kabeera(latha hridayanath mangeshkar)
-- chala vaahi des( meera bhajans, lata n hridayanath mangeshkar)
Category 3
-- vata(relaxation music for morning , evening- deepak chopra)
-- L.subramaniam(conversations -A fusion album with Stepehem grapheti)
-- Ganapati satchinanda( music for healing n meditation)
-- nothing but wind( illayaraja n Pt. Hari pradsad chaurasia)
Category 4(wester classical)
--mozart(greatest hits)
-- beethoven (greatest hits)
-- tchaikovsky(ballet music)
Category 5 (indian classical vocal)
-- Ustad bade ghulam ali khan
-- pt. bhimsen joshi
-- sanjeev abhayankar
--pt. jasraj
--pt. mani prasdaji
Category 6(indian classical instrumental)
-- morning dew(pt. hari prasad chaurasia- flute)
-- live at the carnegie hall( pt ravi shankar -sitar)
--ustad sultan khan(sarangi)
--classical encounters (pt. shiv kumar sharma-santoor)
play the music as if u are in watching a movie
best time for classical is morning n night n western in the evening n afternoon
Courtesy: Rekha Satish
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