Scary but true.. be aware, watch out, help the kids regain confidence in humanity.. be there!
Wednesday, February 13, 2013
Bacchon Ki Khaamoshi...
Scary but true.. be aware, watch out, help the kids regain confidence in humanity.. be there!
Monday, February 11, 2013
Transition across continents...
A major concern for me was how the kid would adapt to the life in US, so different from hers in the village, a language altogether different, people a lot more different and the solitary life out here..
Language
The seemingly most toughest barrier of all... In India, in urban areas, this is surely not a problem but for me a mom raising a kid in rural India with focus on speaking English it is all the more an uphill task. Be it transitioning across the globe or otherwise, one should speak to the kind in all the languages possible... it is proven that the kids can soak in the information much well and can learn about 3 to 5 languages at a time, so emphasizing on mother tongue, one should certainly use others too and not repeat the mistake that I did.
Watching TV, everyone suggested this to me.
Talking to friends, teachers at school.. this way they learn the more and the quickest.
If you are particular about your kid talking in your mother tongue, then make sure that he/she speaks in the language and replies in the language. They will have plenty of places to speak and learn English but your language is best spoken by you, so set that rule straight. watch for the signs like if the kid is understanding what you speak but answering in English, make a conscious effort to get them to talk.
A few friends by experience have told us this and we notice that too, so it is strictly in Telugu at home for the kid and for us as well.. we teach her in English, explain in English at times but it is Telugu that we would like her to speak.
Daycare/Preschool
If you are in the states in the middle of year like me, it is going to be a bit tough... private day cares might still be having positions but affordable ones, in a lesser budget, like the church schools, it depends. So figure out the distance, time, the ride/car-pool, payment and all and the best thing is to get the kid to the school, not just to learn or anything but to get used to the way things are, understand the concept of sharing, taking turns, learning pleasant manners and most importantly for the kid to be happy.
New Potty Habits
One more thing that was of concern to me is that the kid was new to the concept of wiping herself clean, washing her hands everything on her own, which is expected to be since she was already 3 and turning 4 shortly. Being from India, it was always water for the bum, cleaning hands and feet afterwards but like everything else, the kids adapt faster to everything and touchwood, get going much faster than we adults.
Play Pattern With Other Kids
Being from the village, pampered to the core by everyone around her, the kid had a tough time sharing the toys, adjusting to the new kids with a different language (Tinglish) and she used to get cranky but once in school, things are a lot more easier. I have learnt hard way that being aggressive in teaching them to be well mannered turns out counter-productive if we over do it, just go with the flow, make them understand with patience, introduce time-outs, cry-it-out-alone sessions, maybe but only to moderation.
I am still learning a lot of things from her, will put in more as and when time permits.
Language
The seemingly most toughest barrier of all... In India, in urban areas, this is surely not a problem but for me a mom raising a kid in rural India with focus on speaking English it is all the more an uphill task. Be it transitioning across the globe or otherwise, one should speak to the kind in all the languages possible... it is proven that the kids can soak in the information much well and can learn about 3 to 5 languages at a time, so emphasizing on mother tongue, one should certainly use others too and not repeat the mistake that I did.
Watching TV, everyone suggested this to me.
Talking to friends, teachers at school.. this way they learn the more and the quickest.
If you are particular about your kid talking in your mother tongue, then make sure that he/she speaks in the language and replies in the language. They will have plenty of places to speak and learn English but your language is best spoken by you, so set that rule straight. watch for the signs like if the kid is understanding what you speak but answering in English, make a conscious effort to get them to talk.
A few friends by experience have told us this and we notice that too, so it is strictly in Telugu at home for the kid and for us as well.. we teach her in English, explain in English at times but it is Telugu that we would like her to speak.
Daycare/Preschool
If you are in the states in the middle of year like me, it is going to be a bit tough... private day cares might still be having positions but affordable ones, in a lesser budget, like the church schools, it depends. So figure out the distance, time, the ride/car-pool, payment and all and the best thing is to get the kid to the school, not just to learn or anything but to get used to the way things are, understand the concept of sharing, taking turns, learning pleasant manners and most importantly for the kid to be happy.
New Potty Habits
One more thing that was of concern to me is that the kid was new to the concept of wiping herself clean, washing her hands everything on her own, which is expected to be since she was already 3 and turning 4 shortly. Being from India, it was always water for the bum, cleaning hands and feet afterwards but like everything else, the kids adapt faster to everything and touchwood, get going much faster than we adults.
Play Pattern With Other Kids
Being from the village, pampered to the core by everyone around her, the kid had a tough time sharing the toys, adjusting to the new kids with a different language (Tinglish) and she used to get cranky but once in school, things are a lot more easier. I have learnt hard way that being aggressive in teaching them to be well mannered turns out counter-productive if we over do it, just go with the flow, make them understand with patience, introduce time-outs, cry-it-out-alone sessions, maybe but only to moderation.
I am still learning a lot of things from her, will put in more as and when time permits.
Friday, February 1, 2013
Dishti/Drushti Teese Paddatulu - AP Style..
One very major belief of moms is the nara-dishti, buri nazar, etc.. I guess it is kind of an integral part of our growing up years and continues to the time, we have our parents around.. yes, my mom thinks I might be affected even now, forget my daughter ;).. so..
Pasipillalaki disthi telikagaa tagultundi antaaru...
***Nara ghosha/Disthi yantramu ledante disti bomma... deenni tagilistaaru gummamlo.
***Pasipillalaki pedda nalla kaatuka bottu nuduti meeda, bugga meeda, kanatala meeda pedataaru.
***Dishti teestunnattugaa moodu saarlu chuttu tippi arikaallalo kaatuka bottu.
Oorlo aite inti chaakali untaaru kaabatti, chaakali cheyyi chalava ani nammutaamu memu, kaabatti dishti tanatote teeyinche daanini, peru Rukminamma.. aka.. rukku maamma (for the kid).. Guruvaaram, Aadivaaram saayantram (Thursday and Sunday evenings) teesedi tanu ekkuvagaa..kidni toorpu vaipu koochopetti/nunchopetti (east facing).
***Roju vaari dishti
kallu uppu (rock salt) chetilo teesukuni, irugu dishti, porugu dishti, oorlo vaalla dishti, kanna talli dishti, ani anni perlu cheppi... pillatoti "thu-thu-thu" ani moodu saarlu ooyinchi... nootilono, totti neellalono aa uppuni veseseyyadam.. if not possible, throwing that in a bowl of water and pouring it in the sink.
***Annam sarigga tinakapote annam muddala dishti
Nindukunda lo modata vandina annam muddalu 3 (I used to cook rice in the cooker, so take 3 morsels and keep them aside), nindu kunda neellu (idi kudirite okay, ledante just tap tippesi neellu patti avi vaadatame), 3 rakaala poolu, pasupu, kumkuma, boggu masi (to color rice black), and some hair (preferably mom's).. annam moodu muddalu pisiki pasupu, kumkuma, boggu kalipi pettukuni, oka chembulo neellu posukuni, pasupu, kumkuma, poolu, juttu vesi.. pillani oka chota toorpu vaipu koorchopetti, tana meedagaa 3 saarlu tippestaaru... annam muddalu kooda dishti laaga tippi, neella chembulo padesi... venakki tirigi choodakundaa, velli naalugu roadla koodalilo or oka moola padestaaru... (since I was against throwing anything on the road, akkada vere vaalla biddalu kooda tirugutaaru anedi logic :), I used to throw the dishti stuff in the murugu kaalava near my house... if not possible, we can throw it in the trash and throw in the compactor later, but do not keep it in the house).
We can also replace annam muddalu with nimmakaaya chekkalu, rub pasupu, kumkum, boggu on them and do the needful.. Rukminamma used to alter them both, oka saari nimmakaaya, okasaari annam muddalu.
***Noone Gudda/Vatthi Dishti
Vere oorlu alaa velli vacchinappudu, edaina function kellocchinappudu or kid baaga cranky aipoyinappudu ee dishti teesedi tanu... nuvvula noone, kobbari noone, manchi noone, aamudam ivanni kalipi oka ginnelo posi, tellani cloth niluvugaa chinna peelika laaga chimpi... like a long thin ribbon aa noonelo oka ganta mundu naanabettedi, 2.. taravata pillani toorpu tippu koorchopetti candle toti aa guddani kaalchi, pilla chuttu tippi, oka chota ravvalu raalanicchedi (light that cloth and hold it so that it drips and falls along with oil and fire)... atlamullu, atlakaada ki velaadesi pattukunedi cheyyi kaalakundaa.. and then doing it with the second thread... chukkalu chukkalu raalite dishti ani.. poga maatram vaste ghosha ani cheppedi :).
@@Sree@@
***Erra Neella Dishti
Take water, pasupu, rin soap (detergent liquid, powder), hair strands, nail, lemon
Adding water to all this makes it red... toorpu vaipu pillani nilabetti 3 times clock wise and 3 times anti-clock wise tippi lastlo oka drop pilla forehead meeda petti, aa neellani paaraboyyandi, paarabosaaka venakki tirigi choododdu.
@@Revathi@@
***
1)kalla uppu+endu mirapakaya kalipi left hand lo pettukuni 3times teesi moodu sarlu spit chesi bayata padeseyali.
2)Guddu dishti - Raw egg teesukuni alaney 3times tippi 4 paths undey road madhyalo padeyali antaru ala possible kanappu dustbin lo padeyochu
3) Cheppu dishti oka prastutam vaadutunna cheppu teesukuni kuda disti teesi mancham kinda pedtharu.
4) Manta Dishti - oka old cloth teesukuni daniki manta petti 3times disti teesi oka tambulam lo water posi ee disti teesina cloth petti oka pedda bowl daani meeda borlistharu.
5) vibhudhi Dishti - vibuthi face ki bottula petti coins tho disti thippi aa coins ni chaakali vallaku ichestharu
@@Vidya E.@@
***Pasupu Neella Dishti
oka half bowl water lo pasupu vesi koncham mariginchali...aa neelanu teppesi oka plate lo alane aa water tho saha bowl ni borlinchi petteyali...kasepatiki water antha bowl kindaki vellipothundi.
Cheepuru Dishti
Vaakili oodche cheepiri tippesi padukunetappudu pilla tala vaipu mancham kinda padeyyadam, just like cheppu.
Juttu Dishti
Even mana hair tho kuda teesthaaru, 3 saarlu tippadam... mana hair loose chesey like free hair la chesi 3 times thipestharu nights nidra lo lechi edisthey ila cheyachu tharuvatha hair mamuluga jada vesukovatamey.
Aavaalu Dishti
yendu mirapakayalu and salt and aavalu kalipi disti teesi nenu toilet lo vesi flush chesthanu endhukantey disti intlo vunda kudadhu ani antaru.
Egg Dishti
Egg kuda sundays teesthanu and sink lo vesi dispinser on chesesthanu
Sunnam Dishti
Sunnam kanuka vuntey sunnma and pasupu kalipi yerra neelu la chesi oka glass lo water kalipi disti teesi bayata or chetlalo veyandi..
***Dishti teeyatam aiyyaaka pillala kaallu and chethulu kudirithey kadagandi or thudavandi and meeru kuda me face legs and hands kuda kadukkondi.
@@Samyuktha/Bhargavi/Soumya@@
Nela Debba Tagilinappudu, Kinda Padipoyinappudu
Pillalu eppudaina padithe kuda disthi teestaru..like vallu padithe aa place lo nilchopetti oka mug lo water teesukuni, tippesi, paraboyyali..
@@Sushma@@
Kanna talli dishti gadapa daatadu ani maa amma eppudu cheptoo untundi.. maa ammamma kooda ade cheppedi, biddani alaa kanti nindaa choosukoku, murisipoku ani... okkosaari adi nijamenemo anipistoo untundi naaku... choosukotam, murisipotam maanaledu kaani, paiki anadam maanesaanu :).
edo naradishti, ghosha, nijamgaa untundaa, nuvvu kooda nammutaava ante... I dont really know, marenduku chestaavu, enduku nammutaavu ante... indulo inkokariki nashtam ledu.. so tappenti ani maatram cheptaanu..
For those who wanted it explained in English, sorry I am too tied up to translate the entire thing but there is another link where you can find a few more options...
HERE... FOR ASK AMMA IN ENGLISH
Pasipillalaki disthi telikagaa tagultundi antaaru...
***Nara ghosha/Disthi yantramu ledante disti bomma... deenni tagilistaaru gummamlo.
***Pasipillalaki pedda nalla kaatuka bottu nuduti meeda, bugga meeda, kanatala meeda pedataaru.
***Dishti teestunnattugaa moodu saarlu chuttu tippi arikaallalo kaatuka bottu.
Oorlo aite inti chaakali untaaru kaabatti, chaakali cheyyi chalava ani nammutaamu memu, kaabatti dishti tanatote teeyinche daanini, peru Rukminamma.. aka.. rukku maamma (for the kid).. Guruvaaram, Aadivaaram saayantram (Thursday and Sunday evenings) teesedi tanu ekkuvagaa..kidni toorpu vaipu koochopetti/nunchopetti (east facing).
***Roju vaari dishti
kallu uppu (rock salt) chetilo teesukuni, irugu dishti, porugu dishti, oorlo vaalla dishti, kanna talli dishti, ani anni perlu cheppi... pillatoti "thu-thu-thu" ani moodu saarlu ooyinchi... nootilono, totti neellalono aa uppuni veseseyyadam.. if not possible, throwing that in a bowl of water and pouring it in the sink.
***Annam sarigga tinakapote annam muddala dishti
Nindukunda lo modata vandina annam muddalu 3 (I used to cook rice in the cooker, so take 3 morsels and keep them aside), nindu kunda neellu (idi kudirite okay, ledante just tap tippesi neellu patti avi vaadatame), 3 rakaala poolu, pasupu, kumkuma, boggu masi (to color rice black), and some hair (preferably mom's).. annam moodu muddalu pisiki pasupu, kumkuma, boggu kalipi pettukuni, oka chembulo neellu posukuni, pasupu, kumkuma, poolu, juttu vesi.. pillani oka chota toorpu vaipu koorchopetti, tana meedagaa 3 saarlu tippestaaru... annam muddalu kooda dishti laaga tippi, neella chembulo padesi... venakki tirigi choodakundaa, velli naalugu roadla koodalilo or oka moola padestaaru... (since I was against throwing anything on the road, akkada vere vaalla biddalu kooda tirugutaaru anedi logic :), I used to throw the dishti stuff in the murugu kaalava near my house... if not possible, we can throw it in the trash and throw in the compactor later, but do not keep it in the house).
We can also replace annam muddalu with nimmakaaya chekkalu, rub pasupu, kumkum, boggu on them and do the needful.. Rukminamma used to alter them both, oka saari nimmakaaya, okasaari annam muddalu.
***Noone Gudda/Vatthi Dishti
Vere oorlu alaa velli vacchinappudu, edaina function kellocchinappudu or kid baaga cranky aipoyinappudu ee dishti teesedi tanu... nuvvula noone, kobbari noone, manchi noone, aamudam ivanni kalipi oka ginnelo posi, tellani cloth niluvugaa chinna peelika laaga chimpi... like a long thin ribbon aa noonelo oka ganta mundu naanabettedi, 2.. taravata pillani toorpu tippu koorchopetti candle toti aa guddani kaalchi, pilla chuttu tippi, oka chota ravvalu raalanicchedi (light that cloth and hold it so that it drips and falls along with oil and fire)... atlamullu, atlakaada ki velaadesi pattukunedi cheyyi kaalakundaa.. and then doing it with the second thread... chukkalu chukkalu raalite dishti ani.. poga maatram vaste ghosha ani cheppedi :).
@@Sree@@
***Erra Neella Dishti
Take water, pasupu, rin soap (detergent liquid, powder), hair strands, nail, lemon
Adding water to all this makes it red... toorpu vaipu pillani nilabetti 3 times clock wise and 3 times anti-clock wise tippi lastlo oka drop pilla forehead meeda petti, aa neellani paaraboyyandi, paarabosaaka venakki tirigi choododdu.
@@Revathi@@
***
1)kalla uppu+endu mirapakaya kalipi left hand lo pettukuni 3times teesi moodu sarlu spit chesi bayata padeseyali.
2)Guddu dishti - Raw egg teesukuni alaney 3times tippi 4 paths undey road madhyalo padeyali antaru ala possible kanappu dustbin lo padeyochu
3) Cheppu dishti oka prastutam vaadutunna cheppu teesukuni kuda disti teesi mancham kinda pedtharu.
4) Manta Dishti - oka old cloth teesukuni daniki manta petti 3times disti teesi oka tambulam lo water posi ee disti teesina cloth petti oka pedda bowl daani meeda borlistharu.
5) vibhudhi Dishti - vibuthi face ki bottula petti coins tho disti thippi aa coins ni chaakali vallaku ichestharu
@@Vidya E.@@
***Pasupu Neella Dishti
oka half bowl water lo pasupu vesi koncham mariginchali...aa neelanu teppesi oka plate lo alane aa water tho saha bowl ni borlinchi petteyali...kasepatiki water antha bowl kindaki vellipothundi.
Cheepuru Dishti
Vaakili oodche cheepiri tippesi padukunetappudu pilla tala vaipu mancham kinda padeyyadam, just like cheppu.
Juttu Dishti
Even mana hair tho kuda teesthaaru, 3 saarlu tippadam... mana hair loose chesey like free hair la chesi 3 times thipestharu nights nidra lo lechi edisthey ila cheyachu tharuvatha hair mamuluga jada vesukovatamey.
Aavaalu Dishti
yendu mirapakayalu and salt and aavalu kalipi disti teesi nenu toilet lo vesi flush chesthanu endhukantey disti intlo vunda kudadhu ani antaru.
Egg Dishti
Egg kuda sundays teesthanu and sink lo vesi dispinser on chesesthanu
Sunnam Dishti
Sunnam kanuka vuntey sunnma and pasupu kalipi yerra neelu la chesi oka glass lo water kalipi disti teesi bayata or chetlalo veyandi..
***Dishti teeyatam aiyyaaka pillala kaallu and chethulu kudirithey kadagandi or thudavandi and meeru kuda me face legs and hands kuda kadukkondi.
@@Samyuktha/Bhargavi/Soumya@@
Nela Debba Tagilinappudu, Kinda Padipoyinappudu
Pillalu eppudaina padithe kuda disthi teestaru..like vallu padithe aa place lo nilchopetti oka mug lo water teesukuni, tippesi, paraboyyali..
@@Sushma@@
Kanna talli dishti gadapa daatadu ani maa amma eppudu cheptoo untundi.. maa ammamma kooda ade cheppedi, biddani alaa kanti nindaa choosukoku, murisipoku ani... okkosaari adi nijamenemo anipistoo untundi naaku... choosukotam, murisipotam maanaledu kaani, paiki anadam maanesaanu :).
edo naradishti, ghosha, nijamgaa untundaa, nuvvu kooda nammutaava ante... I dont really know, marenduku chestaavu, enduku nammutaavu ante... indulo inkokariki nashtam ledu.. so tappenti ani maatram cheptaanu..
For those who wanted it explained in English, sorry I am too tied up to translate the entire thing but there is another link where you can find a few more options...
HERE... FOR ASK AMMA IN ENGLISH
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